Fake Missed Connections – Brett Fletcher Lauer

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Fake Missed Connections – Brett Fletcher LauerFake Missed Connections by Brett Fletcher Lauer
Published by Soft Skull Press on January 12, 2016
Genres: Personal Memoirs
Pages: 225
Format: Kindle
Source: Edelweiss
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Your wife is having an affair with my husband. It has caused some trouble in my marriage and I thought you should know.
One phone call in December 2005 begins the compelling, unpredictable story of Fake Missed Connections. A child of divorce with an already fragile sense of trust, Lauer unravels at the betrayal, begins divorce proceedings, and moves back to Brooklyn where he spends too much time alone, fixated on the idea that a murderer from 1898 might be haunting his apartment. Eventually, as he starts to peruse online dating profiles, he becomes obsessed with “missed connections” precisely because they provide what online dating doesn’t: a story.
He begins writing phony missed connections to post on Craigslist and, though he feels a stab of guilt when he posts them, he is hopelessly intrigued by the responses he receives. Real documents illuminate Brett’s dating adventures, from love (and hate) letters and instant message conversations to Brett’s online dating profile and wedding announcement. Fake Missed Connections is an unconventional yet deeply moving look at the modern search for love, the ways in which we fail to communicate, and the quest for a genuine moment of connection.


I had such high hopes for Fake Missed Connections, but sadly they were not met. In the synopsis it states Brett Fletcher Lauer begins to write fake missed connections on Craigslist following his divorce, so I expected the book to be mainly the missed connections. What he wrote, the crazy responses and such. I expected funny and dark. Instead I read a memoir that was 70% dwelling on the past and sadness, 10% about Lauer’s addiction, 10% straight up whining and 10% personals, missed connections and responses. I think I would have liked Fake Missed Connections more if it had a different title or synopsis. I was expecting something totally different and as I was reading I kept looking for the Craigslist ads and the sharp biting humor I believed was coming. If I had know this was to be primarily about the hurt Lauer felt towards his mother and wife I would have read it differently. I like memoirs and enjoy the dark sad ones when I know that that is what’s coming. This should have been marketed as an addiction/family dysfunction memoir instead of a personals gone wrong story. Now on the positive side Lauer had a good writing style. I enjoyed his phrasing and pacing, and he had great introspection. Since I had such high expectations for what this book would be I was disappointed. This is a great example of how a synopsis and title can truly affect the reading process.

Favorite lines – There are no adequate similes or metaphors for addiction. There is no setting the broken bones back in place. And if there was, they wouldn’t heal properly. The bones, forever injured, would develop a click in anticipation of dramatic changes in weather. With addiction, you simply know it when you feel it, when you admit it to yourself, and then, day by day, admit it to others in your life. Everything else is just an approximation…

 Have you read Fake Missed Connections, or added it to your TBR?

Rating Report
Overall: three-stars

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Posted December 27, 2015 by Laura in Reviews / 0 Comments