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I have been very lucky lately to receive a bunch of fantastic ARCs. Releases I never dreamed I would get as it’s just little ‘ole me with not a huge site and tons of followers. I was thinking that I was finally hitting my stride after a year of reviewing and blogging. I was doing well and people seemed to like me. Then, in last week’s wrap-up post comments, I got a comment that shocked me.
“You must think you are so special getting all of these books. But really, you are just being selfish. There you are grabbing all of these arcs and now other people can’t read them. They do limit the number they hand out you know. So you being greedy and then proud of it is just awful. I should report you to Netgalley as an abuser. No one can read all of those books, you are just a liar. I will never visit your blog again and I’ll tell all of my friends not to either.”
Wow…what… I just did not know what to do at the time other then not approve the comment and cry. Yup, this one person made me break down just a little. They also really made me think; am I greedy and a bad blogger? Is there an etiquette I am missing? Am I turning everyone off? Am I that weird girl in the corner that people talk to when they have to? Am I alienating others with my quirks? What is wrong with me? My head was seriously spinning. After a little while though, I thought about it logically. I read 5-8 books a week. Split the difference and say 6.5 books times 4 weeks in a month and that is 26 books a month I read. I don’t DNF even when I should, and if given an ARC I will read it. So what is wrong with me requesting and getting 7 to 10 books a week to review with some release dates six or seven months away? I realized that there is nothing wrong with it for how I operate. I will read and review the book I was given, so no harm done. The person was a first time visitor, first time commentator, probably did not know that I read quite so much and I hope was just having an off day. I deleted the comment after copying it for this post and did not respond to the person, but it really made me think. I get jealous of other bloggers too.
I do, I admit it. When I see others getting review copies of my favorite authors I wonder how they pulled that off. When I see sites newer than mine with way more subscribers I question how they got them. When I respond to another bloggers tweet and don’t get a response but others do, I wonder what I did wrong. I think it is a part of human nature to get jealous. I know for me it makes me strive to be better, to figure out what others did to accomplish those things. Unfortunately, for others it makes them lash out. If they feel bad then everyone around them should as well.
I know that one comment I received will actually make me pause when I feel my jealousy start to rise up in the future. I don’t ever want to make another feel like I did after reading it. So I will congratulate others when they get that next big read and I will remain friendly even if I feel snubbed. I think consciously trying to be the bigger person can only help my blogging and me as a person.
So tell me, what makes your Green Eyed Monster come out? What is your reaction?
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